Moving With Kids
From Upset to Upbeat
Moving is a difficult and anxiety-provoking experience for everyone; however, children seem to be especially sensitive when it comes to relocating overseas. Your child may become angry, depressed or sad. He or she may have a great deal of anxiety about moving to a new town, going to a new school or making new friends. Your attitude towards everything will greatly influence your child’s. Stay upbeat! You can help your child cope with this experience and turn it from upsetting to exciting!
When going through an international relocation, you want to help your child understand what is going on and what to expect. Try the following tips to help your child feel better about your upcoming move overseas.
- Tell your child as soon as you know you are moving. Waiting may make the move seem last minute or rushed.
- Explain to your child the reason for your international relocation (i.e. a new job, family, etc.).
- Educate your child about the new city or country you will be relocating to. Make a game of it by trying foods and games associated with the country you will soon be calling home.
- Answer your child’s questions. I’m sure your child will have many questions regarding your international relocation. Welcome and encourage these questions as they will help your child better understand throughout the process.
- Give them a job to do! Depending on his/her age, make a list of jobs that he/she can do. Allowing them to be a part of the moving process in this way will help them to feel like an active part of your international relocation.
- Help your child pack some of his/her favorite personal items. It will take several weeks for your shipment of belongings to arrive at your new home. It may help your child to feel more comfortable during this time if he/she is surrounded by some familiar things.
- Let your child decorate his/her new room. This will give your child something to look forward to while moving, while also give him/her some control in the situation.
Make the trip fun!
Your child is feeling better about your international relocation, your bags are packed, your furniture is on its way and it’s time to go! Make the trip fun for your child. This will help your child keep his/her mind off of any last minute feelings of sadness or anxiety. For younger children, pack a fun bag of special comfort objects, activities, small toys and snacks. This will help keep your child occupied throughout your long trip. Your child will be too busy coloring pictures and eating fun snacks to complain! Then, if your child gets tired their favorite comfort object will be ready and waiting for them. Never make the mistake of packing those things away!
Older children are more likely to be concerned with fitting in and leaving the life they have known behind. Try to get them acquainted with all of the unknowns they are concerned about. Show them videos and pictures of the new place you are moving overseas to. If possible, take a trip there ahead of time and bring your child! Letting your child see where he/she will be relocating to may alleviate some anxiety. If you bring your child for an orientation trip, be sure to put attractions and locations on the agenda that will appeal to him/her. There are many international schools located across the globe. You may want to consider sending your child to a school where he/she will not be the only child that has gone through an international relocation. A school of this nature has its pros and cons. While your child may feel more “at home” because he/she is not the only one that is not indigenous to that particular country, it may make the transition a bit harder as he/she will not be quite as immersed in the culture. When considering what school to send your child to, consider how long you plan to stay in this new country. If intending to stay long-term, consider helping your child immerse his or herself in the new culture by attending a local school. If you only intend to stay for a short period of time, or if your child is reaching college age and intends to go back for college, consider a school where he or she will feel most comfortable for a brief period of time.





